On my journey I have found books, movies/TV shows and podcasts helpful. I have not enjoyed everything on this list, but provide the information for others who may find it helpful. I have also included a few other resources I hope are helpful. Let me know what I can add that you found helpful.
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Resources
Books
A Broken Tree: How DNA Exposed a Family’s Secrets—Stephen F. Anderson
American Baby—A Mother, A Child, and the Shadow History of Adoption—Gabrielle Glaser
American Bastard-Jan Beatty
Before We Were Yours: A Novel-Lisa Wingate, Emily Rankin, et al.
Before and After: The Incredible Real-Life Stories of Orphans Who Survived the Tennessee Children's Home Society-Judy Christie, Lisa Wingate, et al.
Believe It—Jamie Kern Lima (Jamie accidentally found out she was adopted as an adult and a portion of her book is her story of finding her birth mother)
Calling Dr. Laura, A Graphic Memoir--Nicole J Georges
Exposed by DNA: A Path to Reveal Family Secrets—K.S. Hopkins
Finding Family—Richard Hill
Folksong, A Ballad of Death, Discovery and DNA--Cory Goodrich
Inheritance—Dani Shapiro
I'm Glad My Mom Died--Jennette McCurdy (Has an NPE twist but not the focus of the book.)
Ithaka: A Daughter's Memoir of Being Found-Sarah Saffian
Junkyard Girl, A Memoir of Ancestry, Family Secrets and Second Chances--Carlyn Montes De Oca
My Extra Special Leaves-Jean Wright *Please Note-this is a children's book.
“A sweet and simple breakdown of the sibling relationship between sperm donor-conceived children. This fun, inclusive story not only addresses the excitement surrounding donor sibling similarities and uniqueness, but also gently addresses the potential curiosity a child may feel as they better understand how they came to be!”
My Family Tree Taken to the Grave--Shari Klosterman
NPE*A Story Guide for Unexpected DNA Discoveries--Leeanne R. Hay
Orphan Train: A Novel-Christina Baker Kline, Jessica Almasy, et al.
Postcards from Cookie: A Memoir of Motherhood, Mircles, and a whole Lot of Mail-Caroline Clarke
Somebody's Daughter-Zara H. Phillips
The Foundling-The True Story of a Kidnapping, a Family Secret and My Search for the Real Me—Paul Joseph Fronczak and Ale Tresniowski and
True Identity--Paul Joseph Fronczak
The Gathering Place: An Adoptee's Story-Emma Stevens
The DNA Guide for Adoptees - Brianne Kirkpatrick, MS, LCGC and Shannon Combs-Bennett, QG, PLCGS
The Lost Family—Libby Copeland
The Milkman’s Son—Randy Lindsay
The Stranger in My Genes—a memoir by Bill Griffeth
The Unraveling: The Price of Silence-Meredith Keller
Turning My Pieces Into Peace—Annette James
Uprooted--Peter J. Boni
Who Even Am I Anymore, a process journal for Adoptee, Late Discovery Adoptee, Donor Conceived, NPE and MPE Community-Created by Eve Sturges, MA, LMFT
You'll Forget This Ever Happened: Secrets, Shame, and Adoption in the 1960's -Laura L. Engel
Movies/Documentaries
Almost Family
Call the Midwife
Council of Dads
Finding Your Roots (PBS)
Genetic Detective
Hart of Dixie
Horse Girl (DNA obsessed girl is the story line)
Long Lost Family
Live Lights Hanukkah
Mothers and Daughters
Mama Mia
Our Wild Hearts
Reckoning (has an NPE twist)
Sisters (there are 2 versions)
Stories We Tell
Switched at Birth
Taken at Birth
Tell Me Who I Am
The Trial
The Wish Man
Three Identical Strangers
Podcasts
Conversations About Adoption with Jan Matthews
CutOff Genes with Julie Dixon Jackson and Richard Castle
DNA Surprises with Alexis Hourselt
DNA Clarity and Support with Brianne
Everything's Relative with Eve Sturges
Family Secrets with Dani Shapiro
Missing Pieces NPE Life with Don Anderson
Long Lost Sisters Podcast - Licia and Kyle
Luke Who is Your Father? Rikki Jump, Julianne Scavo, and Kendall Scavo
NPE Stories hosted by Lily Wood
Pulled by the Root with Heidi Marble - Alysa Zalma MD - Stephanie Pipes - Sean Farley
Shaking the Family Tree with Raychel V
The Bradley Hall Show with Bradley Hall
The Secret in My DNA hosted by Michele Pare
Unfinished Truths by Jennifer Carraher
Who Am I Really? Damon L. Davis
You Look Like Me - Louise McLoughlin
Websites
cutoffgenes.com
dnangels.org
Evesturges.la
fiftypercentunknown.family.blog
leeannrhay.com
npefellowship,org
righttoknow.us
Thebradleyhall.com
Severancemag.com
shakingthefamilytree.net
watersheddna.com
Commonly Used Acronyms
AF-Adoptive Father
AI-artificial insemination
AID-artificial insemination by donor
AM-Adoptive Mother
AP-Adoptive Parents
ART-artificial/assisted reproductive technology
BF-Birth Father
BM-Birth Mother
BCF-Birth Certificate Father
BCM-Birth Certificate Mother
BRW-Brother raised with
Biosplaining-For people who don't have a clue telling us how we should feel
cM-centimorgans
DC-donor conceived
DCI-donor conceived individual
DCP-donor conceived person
DTD-do the deed
FIL-Father-in-law
FRM-Father raised me
FOMO-fear of missing out
HB-half brother
HS-half sister
IUF-in utero fertilization
IUI-intrauterine insemination
IVF-in vitro fertilization
LDA-late discovery adoptee
MIL-Mother-in-law
MRM-Mother raised me
MPE-misattributed parental event
NDB-newly discovered brother
NDS-newly discovered sister
NPE-non paternal event
POC-product of conception
SF-Step Father
SM-Step Mother
SRW-Sister raised with
Laws around adoption, etc .are different in each state.
Links to the State Bar websites in the U.S.
Alabama https://www.alabar.org/
Alaska https://alaskabar.org/
Arizona https://www.azbar.org/for-the-public/legal-help-education/find-a-lawyer/
Arkansas https://www.arkbar.com/home
California https://www.calbar.ca.gov/
Colorado https://www.cobar.org/
Connecticut https://www.ctbar.org/
Delaware https://www.dsba.org/
Florida https://www.floridabar.org/
Georgia https://www.gabar.org/
Hawaii https://hsba.org/
Idaho https://isb.idaho.gov/
Illinois https://www.isba.org/
Indiana https://www.inbar.org/
Kansas https://www.ksbar.org/
Kentucky https://www.kybar.org/
Louisiana https://www.lsba.org/
Maine https://www.mainebar.org/
Maryland https://www.msba.org/
Massachusetts https://www.massbbo.org/
Michigan https://www.michbar.org/
Minnesota https://www.mnbar.org/
Mississippi https://www.msbar.org/
Missouri https://mobar.org/
Montana https://www.montanabar.org/
Nebraska https://www.nebar.com/
Nevada https://www.nvbar.org/
New Hampshire https://www.nhbar.org/
New Jersey https://tcms.njsba.com/PersonifyEbusiness/default.aspx
New Mexico https://www.nmbar.org/
New York https://nysba.org/
North Carolina https://www.ncbar.gov/
North Dakota https://www.sband.org/
Oklahoma https://www.okbar.org/
Oregon https://www.osbar.org/index.html
Pennsylvania https://www.pabar.org/site/
Rhode Island https://ribar.com/
South Carolina https://www.scbar.org/
South Dakota https://www.statebarofsouthdakota.com/
Tennessee https://www.tba.org/
Texas https://www.texasbar.com/
Vermont https://www.vtbar.org/
Virginia https://www.vsb.org/
Washington https://www.wsba.org/
West Virginia https://wvbar.org/
Wisconsin https://www.wisbar.org/Pages/default.aspx
Wyoming https://www.wyomingbar.org/